A quit-porn app without streaks, counters, or day one.

If you’re searching for this, you’ve probably already done the thing where you look at a number, work out that it’s smaller than the last one, and quietly close the app.

The number is not helping. Here’s what the alternative actually looks like.

What “no streaks” means in practice

Not “a gentler counter”. Not “a streak you can freeze”. There is no day count in WithAnchor, so there is nothing to protect and nothing to lose at 2am.

What it counts instead — all of which only ever go up:

• Moments you showed up. Every time you opened it instead of doing the other thing.
• Minutes you reclaimed. Time that went back into your life.
• Days you moved toward what matters. Measured against your values, in your words.

Slip on a Tuesday and every one of those numbers is exactly where you left it on Wednesday morning — because it’s true. You did those things. A bad night doesn’t un-happen them.

Why this isn’t just a preference

It’d be easy to frame this as a vibe — some people like counters, some don’t. The evidence is less relaxed than that. In a preregistered 2024 study of the Reboot/NoFap model, 28.9% of people who relapsed reported feeling suicidal, and the more involved they were with the streak communities, the worse it got after a slip.

The mechanism has been documented since the 1980s — the abstinence violation effect: what turns a lapse into a relapse isn’t the lapse, it’s deciding the lapse means something about you. A counter that reads 0 makes that decision for you, in a number, before you’ve had a chance to think. The long version is here.

So what do you do instead of counting?

Skills. Specifically, the ones from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy — the only approach here with randomised trial evidence behind it (93% reduction vs 21% for a waitlist, with all the caveats spelled out).

The short version of the philosophy:

The urge isn’t the problem. Fighting it is what hands it power.

So instead of white-knuckling a number upward, you learn what to do while an urge is actually happening — urge surfing, dropping anchor, the choice point — and you aim at what you want your life to look like rather than at zero.

Who this is a bad fit for

Genuinely, because a page like this should say it:

• If the counter works for you, keep it. Some people get real traction from a rising number, and there’s no prize for switching.
• If you want a blocker, this isn’t one. WithAnchor doesn’t block anything or filter your browser. It’s the skills, not a wall.
• If you want an accountability partner watching, it isn’t that either. Nothing here reports to anyone. That’s the design.
• If you want scripture and a brotherhood, there are good faith-based apps and this isn’t one of them. WithAnchor is secular.

What it is

An iPhone app with six ACT practices, one tap from the Home Screen, Lock Screen widget, Action Button or Siri. A plan built from your own answers. Check-ins that take two minutes and don’t score you. A comeback screen that, when you return after a week away, tells you the only true thing: you’re here now, and nothing reset while you were gone.

It’s a paid subscription, and we’re a small company in London that has an obvious interest in you downloading it — which is why every claim on this page has a citation under it, and why the caveats are in the same paragraph as the numbers.